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José Sacramento's avatar

I was beating myself up so much I couldn’t even see it, I was putting others first and always kind then one day I turned my focus inside and realised how horrible I was to myself, it actually surprised me. I catch myself every now and then, yet now I’m aware of it, I just laugh.

The best medication was non seriousness, it helped me rewrite myself. I would never have opened myself up and put my words out there, like I have done on here, if it hadn’t been for seeing how much I was constantly beating myself up and restricting my own development.

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J. A. Plosker's avatar

There are some great insights in here! Turning focus inside and “non seriousness” are huge. One of my teachers talked so much about joy, laughter, and finding ways to be less serious. I strive for that in places in my life and wow…it helps! Thank you for sharing. It’s a great validation.

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José Sacramento's avatar

Thanks, I’m happy that I found your writing on here, keep up the good work!

Yeah finding ways to be less serious is kinda weird to navigate at first cos you think well I can’t just laugh ALL the time, so when I realised that you can be respectful, even face adversity without being serious, that was the gold.

Maybe another way of saying it is that it’s like the Buddhist idea of non attachment, non clinging?

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J. A. Plosker's avatar

I love this. There seems to be a belief out there that if we approach some parts of life with a lighter attitude, then we’re not taking any of life seriously. But of course, that’s not true, and it’s much more nuanced than that. I love that you’re going deep with this concept, and linking it to ancient wisdom. You’re right. That is absolutely the gold. 100%.

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Astrid Sadaya's avatar

Agree. We can only help others when we help ourselves ❤️ I do this by reminding myself not to compare and just focus on my progress ☺️

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J. A. Plosker's avatar

100% agree with you! Comparison can really eat away at our sense of wellbeing.

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A.R. Knight's avatar

Self-compassion is so important! Thank you for this and all the messages you share!

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Polar Bear's avatar

Very thought out and well expressed. Lots of useful information that can be used now. I found the information useful.

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J. A. Plosker's avatar

I'm glad it was helpful!

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